It is fair to say that as a single woman, without a particular fondness for unattached sex, the one thing I miss every day is making love. It is wrong in some ways to discuss the beauty of a functioning loving committed relationship, however intimacy and love making are what sets it apart from all the other relationships we have. I am not a person who judges the sexual choices of women or men. Safe and consensual is great. However it isnt more sex that I miss in my day to day life. It is the beauty and secret of making love every day, touch, kisses and the sharing of oneself with another fully and completely.
This sounds sounds conterntuitive for a female who has survived serious sexual violence. To miss intimacy and making love. However I use the analogy. I love driving, the views the feeling the smell of petrol everything about it. I love cars and i am a bit of a petrolhead. One day I am purposefully driven into and forced into a ditich and almost die. I suffer flashbacks to the attack, however i love driving and cars, so I buy my perfect car, I love it and tentatively drive it small amounts at first then daily. I still experience the anxiety the flashbacks to the horror, however the daily drive the love of my specially selected car make mean that I can once again do what I love and live with the trauma but know that its in the past…. I miss making love every day….